I had righteous reasons to be angry on Monday. I felt swindled. Someone charged me too much for a service that was a month late and not well done.
I paid it but only after a small tantrum feet stomping and unsavory grunting.
When I calmed down, I opened my email and found this quote that someone sent me:
“We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude…I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.” Charles R. Swindoll
So true. I stepped back from the reaction and thought about the lesson of this swindler.
I needed to be more discerning. I had to pay closer attention to those warning signals to be sure that I was working with the right people. Even if someone came highly recommended, if the price tag was too big in dollars or in emotions, then it wasn’t for me.
When I thought back on my interactions with this person, I never did feel too comfortable in my body talking to her. I was stressed and phony when I communicated through email as I tried to cover up the unease in my body.
I can’t afford the time and money and energy to do this anymore. When something in me doesn’t feel right, I have to acknowledge that. I had many years of ignoring the feelings in my gut and body so it took me some practice to tune in again. She slipped through my radar until too late. Lesson learned.
It seems every time I take my eyes/ears/attention off my inner compass which sends me signals like “I don’t feel myself with this person” I pay. I pay in coin, in time, in health, or emotional well-being.
I had another opportunity soon after this debacle to tune into guidance. I got a very good recommendation to use a certain photographer for head shots. She was reputed as excellent. When I got on the phone with her, she was all about getting the business, not too interested in me or my projects.
Then I met someone at a mall a week later. She used the magic words with me as she described taking my photo. “We’ll have fun,” and she gave me a big smile.
I cancelled the other appointment and booked her. The results were great. And the bill was great.
Not too long after I had the disappointing first experience, I received a surprise check in the mail from a source I had not expected. It was as if the universe was saying “you learned the lesson, you don’t need to pay anymore.”
Look for the lesson in all things. I don’t mean, expect to suffer. But get a bird’s eye view and keep your heart open. Keep your feet on the ground too, and be present to the signs in your own gut, heart, or whatever.