Do you doubt even after your heart tells you what to do?
Doubt caused a schism in me for a long time. It affected my health, wealth, creativity, and ability to get things done or see things through.
When we are in doubt, our energies are split and we are less effective. It is usually the split between the head and the heart.
Maybe you’ve heard the adage, “we can not have two masters.” It’s true. Even if they are both us. (Ha ha!) If we try to follow two paths at once, it will divide us.
I was certain that I wanted to make a move across the country. As soon as I looked into it, I found a job and a home. I found a mentor for my writing and publishing. But after a few weeks, when we weren’t able to sell our house and obstacles came a long, I had doubts. Was I doing the right thing? Could I handle the cold weather? Could I handle the pressures of the new responsibilities? I had so much worry and doubt (chewing on matters), that my tooth literally cracked.
I became aware of this level of doubt of my choices—that I was actually going in two directions: the direction of the heart and the worry loops of the mind.
But the voice of my heart has become louder, it longed for the new climate, new job, new friends, new adventure. But the mind was worried about the change and responsibilities.
How to mend the split of head and heart:
1.Awareness of the split! It is usually a split between what we know in our hearts with what we think in our minds we ought to do.
2. Identify which is the heart direction and which is the head speaking. Write them out with all their attractions.
3. Visualize the two paths of head and heart and then see them come together into one so they are no longer pulling on you. Perhaps you sense a feeling of wholeness and relaxation.
4. Relax all your atoms, breathe, open the heart and tap into that enthusiasm for the heart action.
5. Write down your experiences, realizations.
6. And remember, expansion is connected more with the positive emotions and contraction with fear. With fear, it’s hard to listen to the enthusiasm of the heart.
Another example of doubt:
I rescued a bird recently that I found outside that couldn’t fly. It was domestic, so the wildlife sanctuary would not take it, and they gave it right back to me. I brought it to the vet who was part of local rescue team for wildlife. He said the same thing. I checked for a local owner but couldn’t find one.
I knew in my heart that my family needed to take in the bird. My husband had always wanted a bird. And I had felt some connection to this bird right away. We brought it home, but after a day of it not eating and then discovering that it could actually fly a little as its wings had grown back, I began to doubt. Was this bird really ours? Would it survive with us? How much work would it be?
I was into my mind and out of my heart.
It’s true, you can’t just live without the mind. The mind has to help make decisions and stores information, but I find that decisions of the heart are WAY more effective, powerful and transformative. I wasn’t rescuing this bird out of guilt but out of a heartfelt connection and passion for the bird. It was sort of an answer to our prayers.
Benefits of Listening to the Heart
After a couple of days, I spent more time with the bird feeding it as it calmed down and sitting with it. I noticed this bird had a calming effect on me. As I fed and cleaned its cage, this bird provided me and my family with this sense of peace and beauty.
The doubt is gone. The bird is part of our family. I go on the balcony and just sit with it in the morning, just basking in its presence. It eats out of my hand, flies around, and talks to me in bird language of nods, side way head tilts, cooing and more.
Trust the heart and the head give the head and heart space to co exist instead of challenging each other every step of the way.
This is a new era. The heart can energize us to move forward, help us align with health and wealth, and help make milestone decisions. I now lean on the heart for most everything and the mind has to follow. What about you? Share some of your journey below.