When I was an actor, I learned to how to listen. It was full body listening with all five senses.
Using all the senses makes you fully present and able to react in a spontaneous powerful way. The audience believes the actors. They sense the actors are not lying to them. Something feels real. Listening in this way leads to authentic performance.
In turn, this helped me learn to listen to people in life, in the classroom, in business and relationships.
Sending a Different Message
Now, I can hear when someone is saying one thing but sending a different message. If someone says they are “fine” but are angry, depressed, my senses are tuning into the true emotional or mental response from them. They are not fine, they are something else in their sound.
I recently had an exchange with someone who charged me for a service. I asked them to clarify the charge. The person sent me back an email using all the right nice words, but it struck me hard. It was almost painful. Because in energy, she was angry. She wasn’t aligning her word with her feelings and thoughts.
Listening like this is helpful in dealing with people. I let them have their experience. I don’t have to be the effect of a negatively charged person. It may be that they are directing negative feelings at me without even knowing it. When appropriate, I can call them on their stuff.
This ability to listen with all the senses started by listening to my own vibration through my voice. Taking voice classes years ago with some gifted voice coaches, I learned how to pay attention to the vibrations of my own voice. I learned when I had blockages in my voice, psyche or body and I learned how to release them.
Now I teach people how to do this in my classes.
As people learn to release blockages in their own voice, they learn to listen more perceptively to others. It’s one great benefit of getting in touch with your own voice, emotions, body.
So, if you want to learn how to listen to others, start with listening to your own voice. Are you shaky, nasal, speaking from the chest, tight in the belly? Learn to be aware and then play with how to release this tension or move it through your body.
It can start a chain reaction of many benefits. As you listen to yourself, understand and have more compassion for your own journey of sound, you naturally start to do this for others.
Experiment and share with me your results.
Hope you have a joyful and fun-filled week. And if you want to learn more about these techniques, see my upcoming course in June of 2017 here: http://courses.thereseaylakravetz.com/courses/confident-public-performance