Years ago, after my third semester majoring in German, I got my first D. There was no turning back or changing majors. How would I pay for extra semesters because of the high tuition cost? But it didn’t look like I could succeed.
Had I made a mistake in choosing German as my major?
I ended up going to Germany to study and there I was able to think in German, get over the mental block, and have an amazing adventure through traveling
My “mistake” led to great learning and great adventure.
Can you make a mistake? If you make a “wrong decision,” you eventually learn by facing the deeper truth that was lurking within, you learn to discern better for next time, and you put yourself there in a new, braver way.
What if I hadn’t been with that first guy who derailed my purpose?
I probably wouldn’t have appreciated the right guy I am with now. I wouldn’t have learned to stand up to bullies, I wouldn’t have learned how to listen to my gut.
What if I hadn’t left that career in NY? I wouldn’t have gained confidence in the classroom where I was given room to grow and find myself as well as help people in a more direct way.
The bigger mistakes we make, the greater we learn. The more we learn, the more we show up in the world as our true selves because it is those times we have to dig deep within for strength, creativity, survival instincts. So put yourself out there. Take a chance.
Sure, if you know in your gut you don’t want to marry that guy, don’t. But if you marry him, and you find out it’s the wrong guy later because he mistreats you, get out, get safe, and hone your discernment muscles and speak your truth more.
Our truth muscles get stronger after we learn from a mistake. And we show up in the world to use our gifts.
When I set out to write my book, I had created huge obstacles for myself: I didn’t identify as a writer due to childhood influences. I had anxiety about sharing my opinions and written word. It took years of writing each morning to blow away blocks to writing. It took years of “making mistakes” with my writing and publishing. But in the end, freedom of expression won out.
Where will you make your mistakes today, this week, this year?
Next week I’ll look at how to “make mistakes” when the stakes are high or when you work for someone else?