Don’t talk about it…yet. The dream. That creative project you just began. The one that will turn into the bestseller, the million dollar painting, the Oscar performance. That dream. Of course, you’ll have to enlist the help of a team—maybe a class, a writing group, a partner, etc.
But those social moments where people ask you, “What have you been up to?” I know it’s so tempting to tell that high school sweetheart who dumped you that you’re going to win an Oscar, but hold off.
It’s about letting the energy concentrate. In order to give birth to this manifestation, you need to make sure that there is enough energy for take off. Picture the launch of a rocket into space. It sits there gathering energy before launch.
Let it gestate. (Gest—root word that means carry or bear.) You need to bear the weight of this dream on your own till its time. Like the first trimester of pregnancy.
I was three years into writing my book before I told people I was writing a book.
When the gestation process is over, and it’s almost time to share with the world, be mindful of who is in the inner circle of awareness. Don’t let the cynical perfectionist in! They will be the most curious, but stay strong.
When my book was ready to show the world, I went first to peer reviewers who had had success themselves, who were able to say something critical and something positive. They weren’t fear-based in their criticism or phony in their praise. Their comments fueled me to continue—never to drown in a corner of my bedroom in depression.
At one point, I had a family member who was a cynical perfectionist. I learned to not share my dreams with her lest she stamp them out. In fact, I did the opposite: chose the man she didn’t like, started my own business, and wrote my book. When I finally distanced myself from doubters and these people who for whatever reason, couldn’t support my visions, I noticed I was free to express myself.
Guard your precious babies, artistic projects, passionate dreams. If they need revision, be careful to not let the critics get to it first. You know the ones that are never satisfied, that never tried to risk much themselves, played it safe, and now want you to do the same. Those people.
Then, after the true competent friends have viewed it, release it into the world. It’s ready to uplift and motivate and heal because it was coming from the depths of the imagination.