We are all some yin and some yang, (female and masculine) but my female side got wait-listed for years.
I embraced male energy. It helps you win the race, accomplish a goal. I learned to survive in a new country, compete in school. I knew how to try to keep up with the Joneses. But it all came at a cost: It wasn’t about expressing my true self, staying in my center, but topping my neighbor and striking first before anyone else. It’s exhausting. I believe this imbalance is at the root of adrenals overworking.
In her book, “Emerging from the Mist,” Jen Ward talks about how to bring this balance of male and female energy that resides in all of us back into balance. Jen gives techniques and taps to remove those stagnant energies which prevent us from being balanced.
In the traditional classroom male energy is usually rewarded: set a goal, win the competition. I remember this in my own learning. It did not do much to teach me to tune into my intuition or learn to trust my heart. Traditional education wore me down. It was exhausting and so out of balance that probably contributed to stress and anxiety.
As a teacher, I need the yin and the yang. I need a linear, planned curriculum with goals written down (male). But I need this expansiveness to be able to adapt in the moment, see each student as unique and find ways to nurture each one (female).
Every part of every class is a balance between these two energies: goal oriented and expansive intuitive. The best classrooms incorporate a balance between these two.
For example, I might set a goal at the beginning of the semester or beginning of class, but as the class progresses, I may feel a need to linger on a certain point or strategy. I may also intuit that someone in the class is not getting it or needs more time. I can learn to trust that too and spend some time there.
There is a flow to life, to class, and learning to balance and move in and out of male and female energy can help.
Each person has some of the yin, and some of the yang, a bit of the masculine and some of the feminine. They are both useful and have value.
I see the incomplete truth of just masculine now. It is the lack of recognition and appreciation for this softer subtler side of life. In our efforts to master being first and the best, we’ve gone overboard. It is this feminine, wise, expansive part of ourselves which can uplift others, heal ourselves and the planet.
Feminine energy is the new black. And it’s back.*
*for more references to male/female energy and how to heal them, see https://www.createspace.com/6837886